Heard from a colleague that she is having thoughts of divorcing her husband. She is same age as me but married with two kids: 6 and 2 years of age. Not sure how long her husband and her have been married but at least I know that she still has that tiny bit of love in him.
However, I am not sure what is the main issue of their marriage break-down. As much as I want to advise her against divorce but I am unable to do so as I have to keep the dark secret (that I am also divorcee). I wish to share with her that painful process of divorce, how demoralizing it can get being labelled a divorcee, how the society somehow still does stigmatized a divorced woman with/without kids and lastly, the process the divorce would be more draggy due to fighting for custody of her kids. Not to forget, the process of numerous visits to the lawyer's office to file the affidavit of divorce to the waiting for final judgement papers and how nerve wrecking the whole process can get.
I am anti-divorce unless there is a valid reason for divorce, for example, due to emotional/physical/mental abuse or infidelity. I have always been anti-divorce from the day I understood the meaning of love and marriage. That sentiments is even stronger after my own experience of going through a divorce.
Although after a divorce, my life is somehow better and happier, but still, the process and memories of the process I had to go through, just to get a divorce still haunts me. The feeling of being accused indignantly just to end the divorce process as swift as possible is still fresh in my memory and that affidavit, which accused me of being an unreasonable and impossible to tolerate woman, will be kept with me in black and white forever.
Really wish to advice her against divorce but yet, I have to maintain my silence in order to protect my identity...
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