1st Step To DesAme Future

Decisions made to embark on the future of DesAme started on 22/9/2014. More will be unveiled as the time comes...
Can't believe that I would be able to make such a big decision to impact my life again...
Stay tuned.,.

Daunting Memories

Hearing this song 'Say Something', will always bring tears to my eyes. This is a song which will bring up my heart - breaking memories and my deepest pain. A pain which no one would fully comprehend and understand. A memory which would forever be etched in my mind and heart...

Letting go of what was once dear to me. Letting go of what I thought was mine forever to keep. Letting go of my dreams and admitting that it was doomed from the start. Confronting reality right in my face when I wasn't very much prepared for. Dealing with what I was in denial of due to my own pride and disbelief. Accepting the true fact and moving on with a damaged past.

Thankfully my fiancé could empathise with me and doesn't rush me into making any major decisions. Although I know he is eager to start a future with me, prepared to purchase a house with me and is ready to make me his wife, I am still contemplating and fearful. I am still holding back due to profound fears. I am apprehensive to gamble my future happiness again.

He is patiently waiting for me to be ready.  Waiting for me to step out from my fears... Only God knows when I would be ready...

09.09.2014: 2nd Year of DesAme

3 days, 2 nights at Siloso Beach Resort.  Checked into the Roof Garden Suite with outdoor Jacuzzi and outdoor shower on the loft.
That's a good life. If one day, I am rich, I would like live my life by a beach with such concept, including a well equipped kitchen, hire a chef like Gordon Ramsey to whip up my meals and lastly, a maid to do the rest of the household chores.
Back to work on 11th Sept.

12 Shrimps & 2 Snails

Added these two Horned Nerite Snails to my eco-system to make friends with my 12 WonderShrimps.

Their main duties in the eco-system is to consume all algae and fecal matter of the shrimps as well as to add some decoration with their black and yellow striped shells.

Should I Give It Another Go?

It has been nearly two and a half year since I started back on the singlehood journey and I am still kind of basking in the freedom of it despite being attached and engaged.

Just last Sunday, I attended the wedding of my fiancé's brother, who had been with his wife for nearly 10 years before they said 'I do'. While they recited their wedding vows during the solemnization ceremony, a part of me wanted to shout out to them to remember the vows forever and remind them of the sacred covenant of a marriage, another part of me wanted to walk away and cry, yet another part of me rejoiced for their matrimony. During their first march-in, I felt happy for them yet worried that they would end up like me, divorcing one another due to lack of 'freshness' in romance. I felt a part of me being wrenched out as memories of my past crept up in my mind. All too familiar: the recitations of wedding vows in front of the guests, the 'thank you' speech to her family and to her for marrying him, the bliss of walking down the aisle while guests clapped, the yum-sengs for best wishes and lastly, the wedding video of how each other met, fell in love and leading up to marriage.

My fiancé was also happily answering relatives that it would be his turn next year September to get married. Surprisingly, I didn't get that blissful feeling like a fiancée should be experiencing. Instead, I felt fear. Fear of getting married again. Fear of gambling my future happiness away. Fear of history repeating itself. Fear of uncertainty. I realised that although I love my fiancé, I am not prepared to walk down the aisle and entrust my future happiness in him. I am fearful of making a wrong move again. I am basically skeptical of getting married again.

However, somewhere deep down inside me I know that he won't let me down and that he won't betray my trust in him and lead me into his world of marital bliss. Somewhere at the back of my mind, I know that I could marry him and be happy. I have faith that he would take care me to the best of his knowledge, he would cherish me, love me dearly, build a stable home with me and would be a much better husband as compared to my ex-husband.

Yet, I am just scared.

09.09.2015 is the date to watch out for and if I managed to get rid of my fears, that date would be my ROM/Wedding day.

Unbreak my shattered heart first...

5 + 5 + 2 = 12

Added more WonderShrimps aka Halocaridina Rubra to my tank. So in total, I have 12 WonderShrimps. The WonderShrimps have been adapting well and feeding is now on althernate days. I will probably be adding a snail to help with algae cleaning from the tank walls soon.

These WonderShrimps have added much 'colours' to my mundane life at home besides surfing the net, watching YouTube and online movies.

HURRAY!

Perfect Imperfections

Love should be pure and simple. It should not be based on social status, richness, materialistic idealisation, external beauty or ability to show off to others.
Sadly, not everyone understands that... To some, love is just an emotion and marriage is based on a rash decision, hence, the increasing rate of divorce. In the eyes of some people, love is just a game or a bet they made with friends, peers or family members. That explains the norm of breaking-up over trivia issues.
Not many married couples would truly understand the meaning of love and marriage. They fail to remember their wedding vows to stay united as one in times of thick and thin, in sickness or in health, for better or worse, to cherish and to honour, to remain faithful and cherish the convenant of a marriage till death do them apart.
Some couples even forgot the reason of why they fell in love in the first place and what attracted them to their spouses initially. They then leave the marriage mundane or end up divorcing due to external temptations.
Such a pity...
I believe that is also probably why people force themselves to never fall in love ever again due to bad experiences in previous failed relationship/relationships. To make matters worse, they witness failed relationships and marriages, which further affirms their idealisation of true love being nonexistent.
I am a believer of true love but yet I don't trust it to happen to me. Only time will heal my old wounds to allow me to trust in true love happening to me again...
Tsk Tsk Tsk.