Was having a chat with a patient's mum over the past few days while trying to bluff my marital status (which was blown by my ward manager). Hence, after my cover was blown, I started to lament to her about my husband being very practical and very much less romantic ever since we ROM-ed. Yes, he is still sweet at times and does pamper me once in a blue moon, but I miss the good ole times when courtship was filled with daily doses of romantic gestures and pampering...
As this patient's mum works with SDU (Social Developement Unit), she began to share with me that most married tend to divorce over lack of romance issues and even told me that romance is only meant for courting couples, which after marriage this romance would soon die down. After marriage, it is more of a time for the couple to settle down, be as a unit and be practical about building their relationship furthur and developing their own culture and home-life. She even told me that she would rather a practical, down to earth, geeky husband than a romantic husband. Her logic? A down to earth and practical husband would have lesser chance of extra-marital affairs and is more reliable.
I am not sure if it is due to era differences but I see other married peers also telling me the same story. Romantic life has died post-marriage, especially to Asian men, some feels vast differences while some feels slight differences. As a compare myself with other peers, I seem to be on the average range with lesser than normal romance post marriage. Somehow, it just doesn't sit right with me... Talking to him about it also is futile...
Yes... I am a romantic freak!!! I am a princes who needs daily doses of sweet gestures and pampering. I am a woman who craves for a romantic love-life with a romantic husband who allows me to indulge in his loving embraces and kisses till the day I die.
2 comments:
marriage is often the tomb of love. that's why i always say, 'why get married?' i'd rather be in a romantic relationship than to bury myself with less freedom. :|
Well, different people, different aims and expectations in life... Be strong and fight for your true happiness!
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