Had a good talk with my dad and I feel much better there after. Used to fear the possibility of divorce mainly in regards to family's pride, parents' face and how they would 'answer' to relatives or friends that their only daughter ends up being a divorcee.
Conversation goes...
Dad: Mummy says regardless if you were wrong or right, we will support you if you get a divorce
Me: Then would it be tarnishing our family's reputation?
Dad: No, we already know where the problem lies. This man obviously cannot forgive you for your past and blames you for it.
Me: How about Ah Ma side? How you all going to explain?
Dad: What is there to explain? They don't know what is going on and what you are going through.
Me: Would relatives or friends gossip or laugh at the loss of family's face?
Dad: Who dare? If I hear about it, I would shout at them and scold them!
Me: Ok.
Dad: In the meantime, just be yourself and if this man wants to play punk, come back to Azalea, your room would always be yours...
Me: Orh.
Dad: Don't need to do anything for him if you are uncomfortable with. Just be humble and don't allow him to find further faults with you. Let me know if you meet with any troubles from him again.
Me: *speechless and near to tears* Ok.
So far, he has returned back to his caring self, after failing to get my parents to side him when he called them to 'complain' and he had caused his own ego to be bruised after my dad rebuked him gently to remind him that what past is past and no use harping on it since improvement has been made.
Now, although I am glad he has returned to his own self before the argument but I am even more glad that I exploded and poured out my woes to my parents gaining their support no matter. At least, they know that if this marriage fails, I am not entirely to be blamed and that the main faults lies in his stubbornness to forgive and forget.
Although I hope the marriage to last and improve, I guess I would be more confident to walk out of it with my own parents' support and understanding. Looks like I will always be a 'Daddy's girl' after-all... No matter how I try to run from their shield, it is always there when I need it the most!
2 comments:
omg... divorce can't be the only way out right? did jeff even mention it to u before?
well, it is always something he says 'out of anger' and something he uses to 'defend' himself or get the last say almost everytimes we quarrel, esp in a major argument.
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