Received an sms last evening from one of my dearest close friend asking how I was feeling as a bride-to be in a month's time. My reply was neutral. Guess that answer is seldom heard from a bride-to be.
Well, in fact I was wishing the day to faster come, so that I can enjoy it, bask in the joys of it and get over as well as done with it. The preparation phrase is already nearly killing me, all the trivia details are like being blown to big proportions. Both parents said they wanted it to be a simple affair and told us they would just follow the flow of things. Instead, with every decision made, they complained of it being too simple, too 'impolite' and not proper. So they made a fuss and got their way. Just for example:
- When I asked my parents about the cards being send to relatives without cakes, the answer I got was that the cake is just a 'extra' practice. Thus, when I got my dad to send out the cards, my mum started questioning me where the cakes was, when I told her back they had initially told me regarding the cake issue, she began getting defensive and said it was so informal to have cards without the cakes. Hence, she got her way and relatives were presented with cake vouchers with their cards.
- My mum in law once told us they she understood that we had wanted a simple wedding without much elaborate practice as we have rather introvert personalities. However, she started screaming when my husband told her that he rather have no much relatives or friends around when he brings me back on that day for tea ceremony. She insists ALL relatives should be around and tea ceremony for all relatives. Next moment, she said they if don't intend to have tea ceremony for relatives, she replied, " Then, I also don't want to have tea ceremony too." Gosh, imagine on that day, I have serve tea to that PRC bitch! But what to do, in order to please everyone, I have too...
It really ain't easy having a wedding where you have to please everyone and you end up being miserable and upset over stuff. It is exactly what I feel about tea ceremony for that bitch! I never liked her, she never liked me. I would never and never will truly recognize her as my sister in law, neither will she. I would not even admit her as part of my family circle, neither will she. However, I still have to serve tea to her and pretend or act like I do and will recognize her as my sister in law. Anyway, the thought of her pretentious act also irks me... So I guess it is a mutual feeling we have each other.
Just hope I can get over the tea ceremony with her as soon as possible. Get over the acting. I also believe that day would be quite chaotic with relatives and parents making last minute changes to the schedule and alter plans as they deem fit making us really pissed yet we have to maintain their smile for the camera.
I just wish that day would just faster come and go. So that I can enjoy my wedding dinner in peace and quiet without much formalities...
4 comments:
i don't like the formalities too. too much work. but i guess there are some things that can't be ignored in chinese culture that the elders still value...
u said i'll be with u the entire day? how about tea ceremony? that's just between u and ur relatives right? honestly i am still blur about what's really gonna happen on ur big day... like the 'itineries' and stuff...
well... tat is y when u r back, I need to run thru the schedule and stuff with you. :)
anyway, the gd news is... No more prc at the VIP table neither do i need to tea ceremony wif her.
Tit for tac! If she can do tat at her wedding, we will do the same to her at ours...
oh so u won't be serving tea with PRC? that's good!
and i will bring my lecture notes ready for ur briefing! hahaha... :p
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