My guo da li has been changed to 25 April 2009 as my mum in law has verbalized that it is a more auspicious day (as per converted to the lunar calendar as 1st April). Weird... it seems like April Fool's day when converted back to the solar calendar, anyways, it is only a day difference and if it makes her happy, then so be it.
So yeah... The day is tomorrow!!! Haha!
Most RSVPs has been confirmed and the final number of tables for the wedding is cut from 20 tables to 14 tables. Cool... Money saving...
And... yes! I am finally excited and looking forward to the day!
About Me
- Mint + Bitter Chocolate = Heaven
- Just the blunt and honest me. Just someone who needs to air her inner most feelings and thoughts. Just a female who suffers from a crazy life journey, with lots of ups and down in her life. Just another moronic human being who wishes for peace and serenity in life one day.
Friday, April 24, 2009
Saturday, April 18, 2009
22 Days More!!!
respondez s'il vous plait people!
PS: CW, you have to here at my wedding 'cause you are my MOH and I need you!!! Ok?! :)
Thursday, April 16, 2009
过大礼
Venue: My House *duhz*
Date: 26 April 2009
Items: Ping Jing for my mum, 12 Oranges, 2 bottles of XO and my ang bao as substitute for the si dian jing
PS: My in laws said I need not buy anything back...But I don't feel good about that. However, traditionally the bride side need not get anything for the groom's side...
Date: 26 April 2009
Items: Ping Jing for my mum, 12 Oranges, 2 bottles of XO and my ang bao as substitute for the si dian jing
PS: My in laws said I need not buy anything back...But I don't feel good about that. However, traditionally the bride side need not get anything for the groom's side...
Friday, April 10, 2009
Next Month = 30days More
Received an sms last evening from one of my dearest close friend asking how I was feeling as a bride-to be in a month's time. My reply was neutral. Guess that answer is seldom heard from a bride-to be.
Well, in fact I was wishing the day to faster come, so that I can enjoy it, bask in the joys of it and get over as well as done with it. The preparation phrase is already nearly killing me, all the trivia details are like being blown to big proportions. Both parents said they wanted it to be a simple affair and told us they would just follow the flow of things. Instead, with every decision made, they complained of it being too simple, too 'impolite' and not proper. So they made a fuss and got their way. Just for example:
- When I asked my parents about the cards being send to relatives without cakes, the answer I got was that the cake is just a 'extra' practice. Thus, when I got my dad to send out the cards, my mum started questioning me where the cakes was, when I told her back they had initially told me regarding the cake issue, she began getting defensive and said it was so informal to have cards without the cakes. Hence, she got her way and relatives were presented with cake vouchers with their cards.
- My mum in law once told us they she understood that we had wanted a simple wedding without much elaborate practice as we have rather introvert personalities. However, she started screaming when my husband told her that he rather have no much relatives or friends around when he brings me back on that day for tea ceremony. She insists ALL relatives should be around and tea ceremony for all relatives. Next moment, she said they if don't intend to have tea ceremony for relatives, she replied, " Then, I also don't want to have tea ceremony too." Gosh, imagine on that day, I have serve tea to that PRC bitch! But what to do, in order to please everyone, I have too...
It really ain't easy having a wedding where you have to please everyone and you end up being miserable and upset over stuff. It is exactly what I feel about tea ceremony for that bitch! I never liked her, she never liked me. I would never and never will truly recognize her as my sister in law, neither will she. I would not even admit her as part of my family circle, neither will she. However, I still have to serve tea to her and pretend or act like I do and will recognize her as my sister in law. Anyway, the thought of her pretentious act also irks me... So I guess it is a mutual feeling we have each other.
Just hope I can get over the tea ceremony with her as soon as possible. Get over the acting. I also believe that day would be quite chaotic with relatives and parents making last minute changes to the schedule and alter plans as they deem fit making us really pissed yet we have to maintain their smile for the camera.
I just wish that day would just faster come and go. So that I can enjoy my wedding dinner in peace and quiet without much formalities...
Well, in fact I was wishing the day to faster come, so that I can enjoy it, bask in the joys of it and get over as well as done with it. The preparation phrase is already nearly killing me, all the trivia details are like being blown to big proportions. Both parents said they wanted it to be a simple affair and told us they would just follow the flow of things. Instead, with every decision made, they complained of it being too simple, too 'impolite' and not proper. So they made a fuss and got their way. Just for example:
- When I asked my parents about the cards being send to relatives without cakes, the answer I got was that the cake is just a 'extra' practice. Thus, when I got my dad to send out the cards, my mum started questioning me where the cakes was, when I told her back they had initially told me regarding the cake issue, she began getting defensive and said it was so informal to have cards without the cakes. Hence, she got her way and relatives were presented with cake vouchers with their cards.
- My mum in law once told us they she understood that we had wanted a simple wedding without much elaborate practice as we have rather introvert personalities. However, she started screaming when my husband told her that he rather have no much relatives or friends around when he brings me back on that day for tea ceremony. She insists ALL relatives should be around and tea ceremony for all relatives. Next moment, she said they if don't intend to have tea ceremony for relatives, she replied, " Then, I also don't want to have tea ceremony too." Gosh, imagine on that day, I have serve tea to that PRC bitch! But what to do, in order to please everyone, I have too...
It really ain't easy having a wedding where you have to please everyone and you end up being miserable and upset over stuff. It is exactly what I feel about tea ceremony for that bitch! I never liked her, she never liked me. I would never and never will truly recognize her as my sister in law, neither will she. I would not even admit her as part of my family circle, neither will she. However, I still have to serve tea to her and pretend or act like I do and will recognize her as my sister in law. Anyway, the thought of her pretentious act also irks me... So I guess it is a mutual feeling we have each other.
Just hope I can get over the tea ceremony with her as soon as possible. Get over the acting. I also believe that day would be quite chaotic with relatives and parents making last minute changes to the schedule and alter plans as they deem fit making us really pissed yet we have to maintain their smile for the camera.
I just wish that day would just faster come and go. So that I can enjoy my wedding dinner in peace and quiet without much formalities...
Saturday, April 4, 2009
*headache*
* Guo da li or betrothal
When: One or two weeks before the wedding
What: Gifts and cash are delivered to the bride's home by the groom's family. The bride's family will take some of the items and return the rest to avoid the impression that they are selling their daughter.
Why: It shows the groom's financial dependability and assures the bride's family that she will be well taken care of after marriage.
Must-have items: Pin jin (money in red packets), jewellery for Teochews (si dian jin), dried seafood for Cantonese, pig trotters for Hokkiens, oranges, liquor and dragon and phoenix candles
Symbolism: Pin jin is given to the bride's family for taking care of her. Accepting the dragon candles signifies that her family accepts him as a son-in-law. Offering the phoenix candles to the groom's family symbolises the giving of their daughter's hand.
* Dowry
When: On the same day after offering the guo da li
What: Gifts are presented from the bride's parents to their daughter and future son-in-law.
Why: The gifts are to bless the couple and to show that the bride is ready to take the new roles of wife and mum.
Must-have items: Baby bathtub, potty, basin, sewing kit, tea sets, bowl set, lamps and towels
Symbolism: The baby bathtub, basin and potty are to encourage the couple to have children. The sewing kit signifies a capable wife, the wedding lamps a bright future and the bowls abundant food.
* An chuang or bed installation
When: 8.30pm on the eve of the wedding
What: Items are placed on the marriage bed and the couple is not allowed to enter the room until the wedding ceremony is over.
Why: It symbolises good health, abundance of fortune and offspring for the couple.
Must-have items: Eight types of auspicious seeds and grains, oranges, red packets, metallic discs (da yuan and xiao yuan)
Symbolism: The discs signify a blissful marriage while the foodstuff is to bless the couple with children early.
* Hair combing
When: After 11pm on the eve of the wedding. In the Chinese calendar, any time after 11pm denotes the next day
What: The bride and groom's hair are combed by their parents. The father recites the blessing while the mother combs the hair three times.
Why: Each stroke holds an auspicious meaning for the various stages of life after marriage
Must-have items: Combs, sewing kit, mirrors, red string and ruler
Symbolism: The red string, which signifies a blessing, is used to tie the bride's hair. The ruler is to remind the couple to cherish the relationship and take care of the family.
When: One or two weeks before the wedding
What: Gifts and cash are delivered to the bride's home by the groom's family. The bride's family will take some of the items and return the rest to avoid the impression that they are selling their daughter.
Why: It shows the groom's financial dependability and assures the bride's family that she will be well taken care of after marriage.
Must-have items: Pin jin (money in red packets), jewellery for Teochews (si dian jin), dried seafood for Cantonese, pig trotters for Hokkiens, oranges, liquor and dragon and phoenix candles
Symbolism: Pin jin is given to the bride's family for taking care of her. Accepting the dragon candles signifies that her family accepts him as a son-in-law. Offering the phoenix candles to the groom's family symbolises the giving of their daughter's hand.
* Dowry
When: On the same day after offering the guo da li
What: Gifts are presented from the bride's parents to their daughter and future son-in-law.
Why: The gifts are to bless the couple and to show that the bride is ready to take the new roles of wife and mum.
Must-have items: Baby bathtub, potty, basin, sewing kit, tea sets, bowl set, lamps and towels
Symbolism: The baby bathtub, basin and potty are to encourage the couple to have children. The sewing kit signifies a capable wife, the wedding lamps a bright future and the bowls abundant food.
* An chuang or bed installation
When: 8.30pm on the eve of the wedding
What: Items are placed on the marriage bed and the couple is not allowed to enter the room until the wedding ceremony is over.
Why: It symbolises good health, abundance of fortune and offspring for the couple.
Must-have items: Eight types of auspicious seeds and grains, oranges, red packets, metallic discs (da yuan and xiao yuan)
Symbolism: The discs signify a blissful marriage while the foodstuff is to bless the couple with children early.
* Hair combing
When: After 11pm on the eve of the wedding. In the Chinese calendar, any time after 11pm denotes the next day
What: The bride and groom's hair are combed by their parents. The father recites the blessing while the mother combs the hair three times.
Why: Each stroke holds an auspicious meaning for the various stages of life after marriage
Must-have items: Combs, sewing kit, mirrors, red string and ruler
Symbolism: The red string, which signifies a blessing, is used to tie the bride's hair. The ruler is to remind the couple to cherish the relationship and take care of the family.
Friday, April 3, 2009
DISC Personality Test
Did the 'DISC' personality test and found that I am the Type 'D' personality...
People who score high in the intensity of the "D" styles factor are very active in dealing with problems and challenges, while low "D" scores are people who want to do more research before committing to a decision. High "D" people are described as demanding, forceful, egocentric, strong willed, driving, determined, ambitious, aggressive, and pioneering. Low D scores describe those who are conservative, low keyed, cooperative, calculating, undemanding, cautious, mild, agreeable, modest and peaceful.
General Characteristics:
Direct. Decisive. High Ego Strength. Problem Solver. Risk Taker. Self Starter
Value to Team:
Bottom-line organizer. Places value on time. Challenges the status quo. Innovative
Possible Weaknesses:
Oversteps authority. Argumentative attitude. Dislikes routine. Attempts too much at once.
Greatest Fear:
Being taken advantage of.
Motivated By:
New challenges. Power and authority to take risks and make decisions. Freedom from routine and mundane tasks. Changing environments in which to work and play.
Ideal Environment:
Innovative focus on future. Non-routine challenging tasks and activities. Projects that produce tangible results. Freedom from controls, supervision, and details. Personal evaluation based on results, not methods.
Remember a High D May Want:
Authority, varied activities, prestige, freedom, assignments promoting growth, "bottom line" approach, and opportunity for advancement.
DO:
Be brief, direct, and to the point. Ask "what" not "how" questions. Focus on business; remember they desire results. Suggest ways for him/her to achieve results, be in charge, and solve problems. Highlight logical benefits of featured ideas and approaches.
DON'T:
Ramble. Repeat yourself. Focus on problems. Be too sociable. Make generalizations. Make statements without support.
While analyzing information, a High D may:
Ignore potential risks. Not weigh the pros and cons. Not consider others' opinions. Offer innovative and progressive systems and ideas.
D's possess these positive characteristics in teams:
Autocratic managers - great in crisis. Self-reliant. Innovative in getting results. Maintain focus on goals. Specific and direct. Overcome obstacles. Provide direction and leadership. Push group toward decisions. Willing to speak out. Generally optimistic. Welcome challenges without fear. Accept risks. See the big picture. Can handle multiple projects. Function well with heavy work loads.
Personal Growth Areas for D's:
Strive to be an "active" listener. Be attentive to other team members' ideas until everyone reaches a consensus. Be less controlling and domineering. Develop a greater appreciation for the opinions, feelings, and desires of others. Put more energy into personal relationships. Show your support for other team members. Take time to explain the "whys" of your statements and proposals. Be friendlier and more approachable.
People who score high in the intensity of the "D" styles factor are very active in dealing with problems and challenges, while low "D" scores are people who want to do more research before committing to a decision. High "D" people are described as demanding, forceful, egocentric, strong willed, driving, determined, ambitious, aggressive, and pioneering. Low D scores describe those who are conservative, low keyed, cooperative, calculating, undemanding, cautious, mild, agreeable, modest and peaceful.
General Characteristics:
Direct. Decisive. High Ego Strength. Problem Solver. Risk Taker. Self Starter
Value to Team:
Bottom-line organizer. Places value on time. Challenges the status quo. Innovative
Possible Weaknesses:
Oversteps authority. Argumentative attitude. Dislikes routine. Attempts too much at once.
Greatest Fear:
Being taken advantage of.
Motivated By:
New challenges. Power and authority to take risks and make decisions. Freedom from routine and mundane tasks. Changing environments in which to work and play.
Ideal Environment:
Innovative focus on future. Non-routine challenging tasks and activities. Projects that produce tangible results. Freedom from controls, supervision, and details. Personal evaluation based on results, not methods.
Remember a High D May Want:
Authority, varied activities, prestige, freedom, assignments promoting growth, "bottom line" approach, and opportunity for advancement.
DO:
Be brief, direct, and to the point. Ask "what" not "how" questions. Focus on business; remember they desire results. Suggest ways for him/her to achieve results, be in charge, and solve problems. Highlight logical benefits of featured ideas and approaches.
DON'T:
Ramble. Repeat yourself. Focus on problems. Be too sociable. Make generalizations. Make statements without support.
While analyzing information, a High D may:
Ignore potential risks. Not weigh the pros and cons. Not consider others' opinions. Offer innovative and progressive systems and ideas.
D's possess these positive characteristics in teams:
Autocratic managers - great in crisis. Self-reliant. Innovative in getting results. Maintain focus on goals. Specific and direct. Overcome obstacles. Provide direction and leadership. Push group toward decisions. Willing to speak out. Generally optimistic. Welcome challenges without fear. Accept risks. See the big picture. Can handle multiple projects. Function well with heavy work loads.
Personal Growth Areas for D's:
Strive to be an "active" listener. Be attentive to other team members' ideas until everyone reaches a consensus. Be less controlling and domineering. Develop a greater appreciation for the opinions, feelings, and desires of others. Put more energy into personal relationships. Show your support for other team members. Take time to explain the "whys" of your statements and proposals. Be friendlier and more approachable.
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