Strangers Again

I'd Be A Fool If I Couldn't See
How Things Have Changed Between You And Me
Maybe We Try Just A Little Too Hard
And Now We Are Strangers Again

I Kiss Your Lips But They Feel So Cold
I Still Remember We Used To Hold
On Those Cold And Lonely Nights We Make Love
And Now We Are Strangers Again

It's Hard To Believe
That There In Your Eyes, Stranger I See
And That The Only Song We Got Left To Play
Are The Memories Of Yesterday

Forgetting You

Many people has asked me on why I have not forgotten the past hurt and why (in their opinion) I have not moved on despite being remarried to someone better, someone who makes me happier than my ex-husband.

Internally, I would reply...
How am I supposed to forget someone who has hurt me so deeply? Someone who betrayed my trust to love me until death do us apart. Someone who broke his promise that I would be blissful with him. Someone who took the marriage oath in front of family and friends to stick with me through all aspects of life, only to turn his back on me after 6 years of marriage. Someone who reassured me that he would accept my flaws, only to tell me 12 years later that he doesn't love me anymore and can't stand me any furthur.

How am I to forget this person who inked his impression in my life for 12 years? The memories of how we grew from teenage life into adulthood, from polytechnic to his NS, to working full time and intergrating ourselves into the workforce. The memories of the ups and downs of being financially strapped students to being able to earn our own bucks. The memories of obstacles that we fought together just be a couple and prove that we were going to be together for good.

How am I to forget this guy who ruined my dreams of being happily married?

How am I to forget this guy who made my life such a pain as his wife, while he became egoistic and prideful?

How am I to forget this guy who made me believe in him and standby him from an underdog to a degree graduate, while I held back my own education and job opportunities just to give him the support he needed while pursuing his part time degree studies, only for him to look down on me after completing his studies and getting the job promotion he wanted?

How am I supposed to let go of this matter when there wasn't any proper closure nor apology from him? All he did was to throw me his decision to seek divorce and expected to sign the papers without a fight when he accused me of having unreasonable behaviour. A mere $5k to 'compensate' for everything he has put me through and wasted 12 years of my life. Pffft!

In conclusion, I have spoken to few divorcees and all of them share the same sentiments. Never being able to forget the hatred for their ex-husbands and the stance of un-forgiveness towards the trauma as well as pain they were put through by their ex-husbands. Hence, I guess I am not the odd one out of feeling the way I do towards my ex-husband.

Rejoined CNY Family Gathering After 4-5 years Hiatus

This year, with much courage and of course, hesitation, I attended the annual CNY family gathering held at my parents' place.

It wasn't easy to face the crowded and prepare myself to answer any ridiculous questions that relatives would ask or comment. It wasn't any simpler bringing my husband for the first time to see the whole bunch of cousins, nieces, nephews, aunts and uncles. I wasn't sure what gossips would fly behind our backs as well as what negative comments would be spread thereafter. But well, I guess there isn't any use hiding and I can't hide from them forever.

Relatives and cousins were 'surprised' and 'shocked' to see me at the gathering. Some even tried to ask silly questions like 'where have I been all these years' and 'what happened and why I had been missing'. I ended up replying that I had eloped with my husband.

Well, afterall, I wouldn't rate this experience a pleasant one but neither would I say it was horrid. It was better than I had expected it to be. I guess everyone in the family has accepted that my ex-husband is gone and Amelia had remarried to someone else whom she is happier with.

Slowly Fading Memories

As time passes, things that once had a memory of you in it are slowly diminishing... I have slowly gotten rid of things that you had 'sponsored' in a way or another. The last thing that I had yet to get rid is the VAIO laptop that you have minimally contributed monetarily. It has died on me 2 weeks back and is lying my the study room waiting for Karang Guni, a voluntary organization that doesn't mind a spoiled laptop or an Ah Beng who can repair it before I donate it to kids in those 3rd-world country for education.

In May 2012, I have already gotten rid of the wedding ring and the mementos of our (once) love, your clothes, shoes and undergarments from my wardrobe in Azalea. The only thing left that I had was the old VAIO laptop, which I had paid nearly $2k. I had also changed job so that I could start life anew. Taking your compensation of a mere $5k to Melbourne to refresh myself.

The past 3, coming 4 years since then, my life is so different. I have learnt much more about myself, regain my own esteem and respect, became more confident in dealing with matters and led a new life, got married, owned my own house, gained a better career prospect along with my degree. I had done things that you once put me down for, I have proved you wrong. I found and married someone better than you, led a better life without you and achieved my own degree without the need for anyone to do my assignments for me.

I hope you are happier without me. The prideful you will say 'Of course' but ask your own heart, deep down inside, are you really better off and happier without me? I need not know the answer.

Goodbye VAIO laptop with memories soon.

Sheep In 2016 Fortune

When Sheep meets Monkey, a shy Sheep will prepare to get in the spotlight.

Career: Don't be too conservative to your career development. It's a right time to encourage yourself to show your knowledge, experience and wisdom to people. Your talent and experience will win peoples respect and bring you good reputation.

Job Change: The career opportunity is coming. If you have the opportunity of the promotion or job relocation, then you can accept the challenge. It must be someone giving you good recommendation. People will help you when you get on the new position.

Wealth: Money won't fall down at your door directly. You still need to work hard to earn the money from your job. To build good people relationship can make it easier for you to bring money home.

Love: If you want a better love relationship, then you need to respect the opinions and feelings of your partner. Both of you need the self-control not to push other to the limitation. If you are a female, you need to watch your language and behavior not hurt the dignity of your lover.

Social Circle: The popularity of a person is always changing. Your people relationship is fair. Currently, you have better chance to build more social connections. You should learn the active spirit of Monkey. You attend more social activities to acquaint new people and maintain the friendships. People relationship is the key to bring you the opportunity of career and wealth.

Quarrel: If you have argument, dispute or lawsuit with someone, then you will face the trouble of the storm. But the sunny day will come after. The result will be a close call. It's better to negotiate with the opposite party to shorten the period of worry and fear.

Health: You need to watch for the food you have. You should eat more vegetables. Pay attention on your stomach, large intestine and the entire digestive system.

General Fortune: As long as you want to work harder for the coming opportunity, the fame and fortune will come to you.

Pig In 2016 Fortune

When Pig meets Monkey, that's a sign of the rain storm.

Career: Basically, your career luck is good. You will realize your job is much easier than before. You will receive the training, education and assistances from others. You have better knowledge to handle your position. But you still need to stay alert. Any negligence on your duty will ruin your reputation and career development.

Job Change: If you have a job opportunity at a different company, then you had better think twice before accepting the offer. A strong wind of Monkey is coming. That's an unstable sign.

Wealth: The money luck is good, if you are humble and play low profile. If you slide into the arrogant and complacent attitude, then you won't get any fortune.

Love: You will find people care about you very much. If you are looking for love, then attend more social activities and you will feel many people are interested on you. If you are in love, you need to plan more romantic moments for your lover.

Social Circle: Your people relationship is great. People care and concern about you. They will give you lots of courage, sponsor and Compliment. That might spoil your personality. You should be humble and never proud of you fortune or achievement. Otherwise, jealous people will give you negative reputation.

Quarrel: If you have argument, dispute or lawsuit with someone, then that will waste your time, energy and money. To negotiate with the opposite party will be the best approach. Otherwise, it might become a big and long event.

Health: Watch out for diabetes, diarrhea, bladder and neuralgic pain.

General Fortune: The good fortune sign is coming. You will be excited. You have good energy and will be eager for actions. But you need to look well before each leap. Thus a promising winner won't become a los

First Post of 2016

I wouldn't start my first post by ranting or updating my 2016 so far...
I would rather start my 2016 with revelations that I had:
1) Life is unpredictable. One moment someone can be healthy and mobile, next moment he/she can have a fall, land up in hospital with a hip fracture and therefore, bed-ridden. The QOL just decreased overnight.
2) You do not need a complicated life to be happy. Just as long as life is stable with sufficient finances to stay alive and enough to indulge in occasional treats or feast, that is good enough. I had enough of ups and downs to understand that stability is a blessing in life. I don't crave for any richness or luxury items. I just want simplicity and stability.
3) The most important thing of a woman is to find a guy who loves her more than he loves himself. It doesn't really matter of the woman loves him as much as he does. The vital point is that he must dote her and respect her more than she does for him. In that way, she would be happy and satisfied. It is useless to love a man so much but he doesn't appreciate it neither does he want to commit himself to her for the rest of his life. A man's heart is stronger than a woman's. Hence, he can take the heartbreak better should the love fails. A woman's heart would melt easier, thus, she can learn to love and accept the man as long as he remains in love and faithful to her.

Am I blessed to be divorced and found someone who loves me more than I do for him? Perhaps so. Maybe you have to go through hell to appreciate little things in life. Maybe you have to be put through shit before your eyes are opened to other avenues in life, which you were blinded before. Maybe you have to experience intense pain before you gain the strength to accept the things you can't change.