RUDENESS 2 THE MAX NEWBIE

Example 1
Me: XJ, could you please come over and help Narin with the transfer of patient for scan now?
XJ: (turns out & walks off, ignoring)
Me: XJ! Narin needs your help right now.
XJ: (turns back and shouted back at me) WHAT DO YOU EXPECT ME TO DO?! I AM VERY BUSY NOW! (walks away again...)

Example 2
Me: XJ, you did this procedure the wrong way.
XJ: What do you mean?
Me: This thing should be done using xxx method and in xxx way. The way you did it is wrong, not aseptic. Will cause infection to the patient.
XJ: WHY ARE YOU ALL ALWAYS PICKING ON ME?!
Me: I am not picking on you. I am trying to teach you the right to do things around. You are new to the ward and to S'pore practice, so people have to correct you when you do things not right. You have to learn from your mistakes.
XJ: YOU ALL ARE ALWAYS FINDING FAULT WITH ME! NO MATTER WHAT I DO, YOU ALL MUST ALWAYS HAVE A SAY IN IT! (stomps away...)

Example 3
While handing over of report...
Me: Who re-cannulated the patient? What happened to the old cannula?
XJ: (Blank stare)
Me: Do you know who re-cannulated the patient and what happened to the old cannula?
XJ: I don't care...

Example 4
XJ splashes water on floor on purpose in bid to 'flick' water out of the cup...
Me: You know you shouldn't do that? The ward is filled with patients. By splashing the water on the floor, you create a hazard for a fall to happen. What if a patient falls? Moreover, in the ward we also have pregnant staff, can you imagine what would happen if they fall?
XJ: Never mind, it doesn't matter... (walks off)

Example 5
XJ created a medication error, she administers a high dosage of insulin when a patient is due for operation and is kept fasting from 12 midnight the night before, therefore causing a dangerous dip in the patient's blood sugar level, requiring immediate medical intervention...
Me: XJ, I think you owe KW an apology for the mistake u have made.
XJ: I don't understand why I have to apologize to her?
Me: Well, she was supposed to 'take care' of you this morning and due to both your negligence, you created an error by giving the insulin. Now, she was the one who counter-signs your administration of insulin, so in the eyes of the law, you both have committed an error and if need be, both of you are punishable by law. So, you have indirectly dragged her into your mistake. Understand? Anyway, she is very upset about this matter and is crying in the pantry. Perhaps, you would like to apologize and comfort her later?
XJ: Why should I? If she is such a crybaby and enjoys crying at such a small matter, it is still of no use if I apologize to her?!
Me: Ok, fine. If you don't feel obligated to apologize to her. I would prefer to you to at least do proper documentation of the incident in the patient's casefile. This would ensure staff on the preceding to take special note of her blood sugar level. As you written English is not very good, I would suggest to write down what you are intending to write in the casefile on a piece of paper as a draft and let KW vet through it before you pen it down into the casefile.
XJ: (blank stare)
Me: Do you understand what I say?
XJ: OF COURSE! I AM NOT AS IRRESPONSIBLE AS WHAT YOU THINK! (continues to do her things...)

Happy Birthday To My Baku

He turns 32 this year... 'Old' man already! Haha! 10th time celebrating his birthday.

He already his birthday present 2 weeks back. I have bought him a mountain bike (bicycle not motorbike) which cost $250. Tonight's celebration would be a nice dinner at Jack's Place and perhaps catching a movie thereafter.

Happy birthday to him...

Random 'Before I Sleep' Thoughts

As I lay in bed next to the man whom I had entrusted my next decades of happiness in, I begin to think of the good old times, reminiscing the first day we chatted on MIRC, talked on the phone, met for dinner, held hands, kissed, all the way to where we are today. This road of relationship wasn't smooth. It was full of highs and downs, ranging from parental objections to almost ending it all due to exasperation. But I am glad that we managed to 'conquer' all the obstacles that almost destroyed us.

Not many people knows exactly we went through. Only we, ourselves, know every obstacles that stood in our way and how hard we fought to keep this relationship going till what it is today. Although those flames of romance has sort of been extinguished over the time, we still have our own ways to show that we still care and love for each other.

Next month, we walk into 11 years since we been a couple... It may sound short to some and long to some. But to me, these 11 years wasn't a walk in the park. I had suffered a lot. I cried a lot. I almost wanted to give up and to walk away. I've been through lots of pain. I have been jeered at for loving him. I was mocked at for choosing him instead of other guys. He too, have been mocked and jeered at for being with me by his own friends. Yet, today, we still stand firm on our own mutual belief in each other that we are meant for one another.

If I had a choice to choose once more. I would still choose him and still want to walk down the same path we did years ago. Of course, I would change and prevented a mistake for and paid dearly for. I won't make that silly mistake that affected my relationship with him. I would not allow myself to fall into that pit-hole again.

Above all, I still love him to bits and may time prove to me that all my love invested would be worth effort. May death do us apart. Amen.

Marriage 2 Me

I would not leave you in times of trouble.
We never could have come this far.
I took the good times, I'll take the bad times.
I take you just the way you are.

I need to know that you will always be
The same old someone that I knew.
What will it take till you believe in me
The way that I believe in you.

I said I love you. Thats forever.
This I promise from the heart
I could not love you any better.
I love you just the way you are.

Love you, Accept you for who are.
Love you, Accept your flaws.
Love you, Accept your 'disability'.
Love you, Accept my own fate with you.


PS: Still praying for the miracle... :)

Fragility Of Life

3,676 confirmed dead, 7,558 unaccounted for in Japan quake tragedy

God bless the souls of those dead and give those who have lost their loved ones in the Japan earthquake and Tsunami, the strength to rebuild their own lives and move on...

Woes Of Having A Future House

Princess Jo finally have gotten her new house in Fernvale. So after my night duty, I went down on Monday after my night duty to 'kapo' around and see how she deals with renovation of an empty house. Man! Totally freaked out at the size of the house and the master-bed room... Small! Her ceiling was also low. The kitchen was small too. I guess my future house would also be like that. I have to start thinking how to cope in smaller space as I am used to houses with more than 100 meter square and my future house would be a pathetic 93 meter square only...

She told me that she had already busted her pockets for the renovations and it started to worry me. I wonder how much I should be saving for my own house renovation cost, plus all the furniture to buy. Wow! It would be like spending for a second wedding except this time no way to recover cost. No one would give you red packet for house warming. Anyway, I doubt I would have any 'grand' house-warming as my husband and I are pretty much anti-social people who doesn't much close friends. Thus, perhaps when the day comes, I would just invite my few close friends and family members for a small party.

The most important point of all, I must start saving for my future house in order to furnish it nicely, buy all the necessary furniture and electrical appliances and ensure that the home would be place where my husband and I would be happy to come back after a tiring day at work.

I am so looking forward to everything but yet 'heartache' to see all the money fly away during the renovations and buying of furniture, etc...

Waiting For The Day Of Miracle 2 Happen

But only love can say, try again or walk away.
But I believe for you and me, the sun will shine one day.
So I'll just play my part and pray you'll have a change of heart.
But I can't make you see it through, that's something only love can do.

I know if I could find the words to touch you deep inside, you would give our dream just one more chance...