Differences...

1) When I am hungry and whining about it...
J: You are old enough to find food. Or... You have hands and legs to get your own food!
D: Ok, what you want to eat? Wait for me, I drive over to bring you out.

2) When I vocalize that there is an issue between us that would potentially harm the relationship. ...
J: So? It is your fault for _______ and for _______. If you really unhappy, you go your own way and I go mine.
D: Let's talk about it. See how to solve it.

3) When I am frustrated or irritated for something not done properly by him...
J: You think that you are a princess eh? Everything must be done your way eh? Go fly kite lah!
D: I am sorry. But I did it because ____________ (rationale explained).

4) When the argument gets too serious and unresolved despite thrashing it out...
J: If you want to still meet, you better don't give me a black face, otherwise you will get it from me! Or.. If you want, don't bother coming back home,  I don't want to see your black face! I don't owe you a living!
D: You cool down first. Don't angry, I will see you later then we talk again.

5) When I see someone who needs help or is in distress...
J: Don't be such a busy-body! Let's go! (Drags me away or walk away...)
D: Yeah, does he/she need help? See if you or I can help. Let's go! ( Goes over to volunteer help...)

6) When I ask if he could join my friends or family for some gathering...
J: What for? You want to go,  then go alone, why ask me for what? I am not so free.
D: Ok. You remind me again when the date is nearer,  I scared that I will forget... *sheepish grin*

7) When I ask for 'me-time' or time with my friends alone...
J: Do whatever you want. I am not restricting you. (Stomps off...)
D: Ok. Enjoy yourself and let me know if you need my transport anywhere.

8) When I get fed up at work or complain about my day...
J: *Nonchalantly* work is like that, do you not think that I suffer at work too? Stop complaining.
D: *listens in silence* Ok lah, dont angry, bring you to de-stress, where you want to go?

9) When I complain that he is unromantic and less attentive to me...
J: Want to be so romantic for what? 无聊!
D: *offers kisses and hugs*

10) When I talk about going on holidays or stay-cations as a couple...
J: What for? Waste money!  Waste time!
D: Ok! Where you want to go, I go with you. *broad smile*

Disclaimer: No one is perfect... Just a comparison on who is a better guy suited for me. And, I am not a spoiled girlfriend or fiancee, just a woman who wants to be valued and treasured by my better half.