Living With A 2-Headed Snake

Guess I am not different from any typical woman living with her in laws... MIL FROM HELL NIGHTMARE!

How can a person gossip about her DIL and yet say she had no ill-intentions?
How can a person tell her son that his wife ain't doing a good job washing the laundry and yet says she had no idea that it would lead to unhappiness between the couple?
How can a person says she desires for peace in the household yet instigate an argument with her son and his wife?

So contradicting... Best of all, she 'dramatically' attempts to end the argument between her son and the daughter in law by slapping herself twice, blaming herself for being 'big-mouthed' and even saying she would jump off the building if the argument continues cause of the guilt she feels! Crap.

What a MIL I have... Acting like an angel yet behaviour like a devil. Vocally saying she wants a happy and peaceful marriage between my husband and me yet instigating us to argue and picking on my difference in handling household chores from hers. One moment saying she knows that being picky would cause unhappiness, next moment says she shouldn't have voiced out her 'care' for the way I do the laundry.

Come to think of it, most of the argument between my husband and me are mostly due to her interference when we discuss matters or due her behaviour or instigated by her 'mistakes' of being too nosey.

Hopefully I can bear with all these craps until we get our own house in 2013... 3 years more... Faster! Hopefully, by then I haven't run out on patience to maintain this marriage and file for a divorce. Hopefully, by then life would be more peacefully and stable. Most of all, hopefully she doesn't voice out that she would like to move in with us!

Actually, I don't blame my husband for being unable to handle his mum and her mouth well. He is just too straight forward in character and always too truthful in telling me what his mum feels about the way I do stuff. He just can't tell his mum off due to his filial piety character.

Argh! 3 years more of tolerance of her crappy behaviour and contradicting behaviour...