Yesterday afternoon, I was gossiping on the phone with one of my close friends about my brother in law (BIL) and the PRC sister in law (SIL). I was talking about their on-off marital fights and SIL's weird demands and threats to divorce if she doesn't get her way, then lowering her expectations when the threats prove useless. My BIL also trying to avoid her calls and contacts with her by travelling to Genting Highlands frequently, going out with other friends until late at night or purposely working late into the night. Of course I was unsure if the both still does go out together as a married couple. I was also mentioning to my friend that his room is still decorated with the wedding pictures, couple photos and the huge '喜喜' word on the wall, so I presumed the relationship is still present, otherwise, he won't be keeping all these stuff...
Last night at around 1am, while I was studying for my exams, I went lots of noise in the living room and went to 'investigate'. I saw my BIL clearing out the wedding stuff, photos and even took down the '喜喜'. His room was totally wiped out of any memento of the relationship. I felt guilty, I thought he might have over-heard my gossip session.
This morning, I woke up and managed to eavesdrop on my mum in law's (MIL) conversation with my father in law (FIL). She was telling my FIL that the PRC woman had all long been playing a fool with my BIL and this marriage was just part of her plot to get what she wants. I vaguely heard my MIL saying that my BIL has gone down to the lawyer's office and the divorce would take 3-5years to be finalized as they have already been married for more than a year...
Somehow, I am gloating and happy that this PRC is out of this family for good, yet at the same time, I pity my BIL. I sympathize with his predicament of the failure of his second marriage. His first marriage had failed due to his fault of neglecting the wife, now the second marriage is also failing due to his folly, thus being blinded to the wolf in sheep's clothing. He has to go through the painful divorce process yet again after walking away from the previous failed marriage 6years ago. If what I overheard is true, this divorce would be longer and more traumatic process for him.
My heart really does go out to him... Of course, I won't voluntarily go and comfort him, knowing his prideful and egoistic nature but I know inside that hard and brave front of his, he must be hurting and upset. Hopefully, once he has recovered from his current wounds, he would learn to be smarter when choosing his next 3rd wife (that is if he ever wants to get married again). Hopefully, this 3rd girlfriend or wife to be, does not turn the family chaotic or causes havoc again to this family. I had enough of being blamed and misunderstood as the 小人, only to get my name cleared after certain number of events or months or years later...
Anyway, this divorce is the best option for him now also. No use keeping a wife who only wants your money, your property and keeps coming out with devious plans to wreck peace and harmony in the family...
