That was a question my fiancé asked me this evening while he was driving me for our dinner. This topic was brought about as my colleague had commented that us, as a nearly 2 years old couple is still considered new and have still a long way to go to understand each other better.
My fiancé wanted me to compare our relationship to the relationship had with my ex-husband (when we were still dating and he was my bf). My answer was of course my current relationship is way better as compared to my ex husband's. Why? 'Cause, I knew my ex-husband during polytechnic years, when we were still pretty much immatured and didn't know how to handle our relationship properly. Plus, at that time, we both were not working yet and haven't seen the real and practical world. Thus, even before the time relationship hit 2 years old, we were already fighting like kids with immature behaviour and arguments were over petty, trivia matters. We were also unable to solve these petty arguments maturely and ended just sweep all our differences under the carpet.
Now, I am in a relationship, which comprises of respect and compromises. A relationship where I am happy to hold the reins, while my fiancé takes the backseat and vice-versa whenever necessary. I admit that I have always wanted to be the dominant one in a relationship and yet be the pampered one whenever necessary, something that my fiancé has been doing pretty well. He is able to balance out on when to be in charge and when to let me to take charge. He also able to give me the space that I require to handle my strrss and emotions, yet control me in his own subtle manner whenever I get a bit overboard.
My fiancé drives me to work and back, takes the trouble to schedule his work to spend time with me and we take turns to pamper one another. There is mutual respect between us as well as we are both show that commitment to make this relationship work hand in hand.
Of course, our relationship is always smooth sailing and he ain't perfect. But, I believe that it is how we make imperfection to our perfect advantage...